Genealogy Chat

Right on Paul.

If you were offered a cucumber sandwich at the vicar's tea party you wouldn't be embarrased to accept, would you? But if the bloke next to you scooped a dozen on to his plate and filled his pockets with more, you'd be fairly taken aback. That's the difference as I see it.

So, Clare, after all that what do you want to know??? Rodney

Hi Clare, Please do not be afraid to ask for help and all newbies . As we was all newbies once and needed help. So now we repay by helping others and in time you will do the same. you was polite to me on your thread. So once again dont be afraid to ask June x

Clare (and anyone else whos nervous) Dont Be! Thats what Records and Tips are here for! For other members to help you! ;o))) Kim x

I can understand how you feel but don't be afraid to ask for help. After all, isn't that one of the reasons we all join sites such as this ? We all need help....where would we be without it and the kindness of those prepared to give it. I'd have given up long ago. Happy hunting.

Well said Ella. I have put comments on that thread, but only because I appreciate how valuable the time and effort spent by the wonderful people here. I would never try to take advantage of anybody's generosity the way this one particular person has. He clearly has no appreciation for this hobby, nor of the fact that people are willing to spend their own time and money on his research. Nobody else on this site does it, so why shouldn't people be warned about the one who does? I will continue to ask for help if I need it, and when I can, I will do my best to give that help in return. T x

Im a sensitive soul (as some of you know) but I cant see why anyone who has read that thread and seen we are talking about a person who advertises himself as a genealogist with a website and who has put up to 60 requests in 3 days on the board can possibly think that we are talking about genuine GR members.?? To be honest I find it a bit insulting that people have said we are making genuine members nervous - how on earth can anyone equate an honest request of look ups with this sort of commercial take on? Clare, if you put up a request having spent hours looking for it yourself you would give all the details and the places you have looked and not found them. This guy just puts a message on saying 'looking for blankety blank possibly blank married to blank someone'. There is a difference.

I really don't know why you personally should feel that way Clare? or anyone else for that matter. OC stated her reasons for the original posting quite clearly <<<<< I notice today that A Certain Person is once again requesting lookups on the Records Board. Regular readers will remember this person as a serial poster of, was it 60, TTF messages in 3 days.This person is believed to have a website, from which they dish out information, passing it off as their own research. ACP has blatantly declared on one request that they have no intention of spending any money on their research.>>>> This is quite clearly a one off and a warning to all of us who try to help out to steer clear of him . It was not a generalised post but I will admit some of the replies were OTT , NO genuine poster has any fear of ridicule, Kat :) xx

I agree with Helen

There's one thread, started by the individual concerned. It's not aimed at you. If you want help, ask. If people think you are asking too much, they'll tell you, but if you don't ask, you won't get help. I think most of us can tell the difference between someone who is doing their own research and got a bit stuck and someone who is too lazy and mean to spend any time and money themselves. nell

PLEASE don't feel nervous to ask. The response on here is great &&& people will know the genuine requests. I don't post many threads Or have asked too many times for look ups ,butnow I,ve joined Ancestry I'm only to glad to make use of my Ancestry subs and try to find if I can ,and that applies to the many kind people on here who do the same. Its a pity tho when someone takes advantage BUT they do get sussed. Shirley

Clare, i think each and everyone of us has needed help from this site otherwise why join,I have just got Ancestry HOORAY!!! and will repay the help i was given for my requests when i work out how to do it quickly.(i take about 15/20mins per search (thats just my rellies)Don't be nervous the people one here know a genuine request from a blag one..........Enjoy......Moe!

Don tbe silly - no-one minds helping a geniune person - its when people take the mickey then, rightly so, people get fed up, why has it left bad taste in your mouth? its should only do that to guilty people.

After what I've read (I found the troublesome requester) I'm going to be more cautious of asking for help when trying to find one of my relli's. The help I have had on here has been invaluable, I've found ancestors in Australia & South Africa, illegitamate children & despite sometimes hours of searching others have found a relli I could not.... Through GR I now have found a reli who shares the ggg grandmother & we now are able to swap info with me being able to give her more info of the area which our relli's lived due to it being where I live... I also feel I have a new circle of friends who I look forward to meeting really soon ... This afternoon although has left me with a bad taste in my mouth...I really try hard to make sure anyone who helps me gets a thank you....I'm now nervous about posting a request for help just incase someone thinks I too am taking the p*** when in actual fact I would of spent hours driving myself insane before asking for help...